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Sunday, July 23, 2006

Field report: My first kiss close.


Howdy, fellow PUA's. I am here to report my first successful kiss close.

It was hilarious, I was being sarged by her. In the PUA's arsenal, there is a "camera routine" to get girls to kiss you. I don't know the history of it but it was mentioned in Neil Strauss's The Game a couple of times. What happened was, a girl performed the camera routine on me and kiss closed me. Holy shit!

First, the good:
- I had a fun, youthful, cute vibe.
- Tested body language - being relaxed really is good, force yourself to be relaxed and spread out. Bad body language will cause you to have a bad mindframe.
- Tested the "best friends test" routine and it worked again. It got girl laughing and everyone in a fun mood!
- Escalation by rewarding HER high points works, but effects is subtle.
- I got her to be curious about me, EVing (Eliciting value) me.
- Was able to monoplise most of her attention.
- Social proof was maxing out
- Got every topic into emotional mode, at least, intellectually emotional.
- Very few questions from me
- Getting her to relate by revealing myself
- Talked about love and sex
- First time I escalate to Heavy Kino!
- I maintained my power of letting go

The bad:
- Being self conscious, awkward silences happened, I felt awkward too, didn't get over it. Lucky she contributed to half of the conversation
- Not expressive enough. Need pre-compiled materials ready to be used.
- When a girl EVed (eliciting value) me, I failed to jump through the hoop. It could be cute but its chumpish! I lost attention a couple of times.
- Payed too much attention on outcome, I was not in the moment, cared too much about trying to score her, worrying about loosing her attention, worry about other guys chatting her up
- Shes in conscious mode most of the time. couldn't hook her into the island for long (parties are distracting!)
- I followed her around. Sux
- Did a few goofy things
- Not enough kino
- Lost her attention to someone else a couple of times.
- 1st day behaviour/dynamics totally inexperienced
- I did not know how to make the most out of opportunities

Da FUGLY!
- I've got oneitis man!
- Compulsive imagination about spending the rest of my life with her... :'(
- Afraid of getting into relationship frame
- Afraid of sexual frame
- I was tanked!
- AFC behaviour! - Telling her shes a cool chick, TWICE!
- Too much context dependency
- Not bold enough to go into full on sarging mode
- I am insecure about sex

2 Comments:

  • At 2:22 AM, Blogger Jimmy Foxx said…

    You did well, man. That kiss close was spot on. Now THAT'S what I'm talkin' about.

    Being tanked is a killer. I've imposed a three drink MAXIMUM upon myself whenever I go sarging. The only, and I mean ONLY exception, is if she is in the mood to get sloshed and you are already making out with her, and it's leading to sex. Then it's fun to have drunken sex with her. Even then, lay off the tequila man - you don't want alcohol to negatively affect your sexual ability!

    One-itis is difficult. It's just so easy to slip back into it. Sometimes I think that I will never get out of "worrying about the outcome". But I know I can get past it - it's just that I've been doing it all my life, and it takes a while to reprogram that unhealthy mindset! There's nothing good about one-itis, unless you are in a committed relationship. Otherwise, you gotta remember that anything can happen. You could lose interest, she could lose interest, someone might cheat, has she passed all your tests yet ect. If things are going well, only see her 1-2 times a week for the first 6 weeks. And date other girls!

     
  • At 6:34 AM, Blogger Mimesis said…

    My oneitis experience has taught me one thing... That there are very few quality woman out there. Perhaps they are like a rough diamond like you said -- That it is up to us to bring out the good side in them. However, once in a while you'd encounter a quality girl and the fact is, quality girls are scarce!

    Perhaps I am in the wrong town. Perhaps I am incapable of seeing the good side of people but I feel like girls in this town is rough :(

    Nonetheless, women do behave predictably in many ways and if you get out of your mind to do something stupid, you have no one but yourself to blame it on. Remember, the AFC is afraid, insecure, needy and inexperienced. Those are unattractive things. Never do it!

     

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