The Journey of a couple of budding Pick Up Artists

Sunday, August 27, 2006

excerpt from a Derek Vitalio news letter

Hmmm... Push-pull in the beginning, and reward-punishment after rapport is established (which, in my case, is immediately....) Ok, so, before homing into the target, Push-Pull her.

    One other thing – as you get to know a woman better and you enter the rapport stage, you shouldn’t lose the push-pull dynamic, but it should morph a bit. Into something more like reward and punishment – so you REMAIN an interesting challenge, but you use it to teach her what kind of behavior is acceptable for you.

    For instance, if she’s been great, you can take her to eat her favorite food. If she’s acting moody and bitchy, you can cut your time together short – ‘I don’t appreciate this kind of behavior, and I don’t deserve it. I’ll call you later when it’s out of your system.’

    Reward and punishment is a little trickier, and we’ll deal with it again at a later time. For now, focus on learning to PUSH just as well as you’ve learned to PULL.

    And if you want to know more about this dynamic and how it affects other aspects of dating – up to and especially including SEX – you should check out my course The Blueprint, full of perfect examples of BOTH behaviors being used in the right way. Nothing can teach you better than trial and error in your own situations – but the next best thing is seeing how OTHERS use tactics successfully. Check it out.


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