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Thursday, August 17, 2006

SS news letters


I can identify with this, can you?
    Today, the New Year started out with a bang with a big
    argument/debate on whether you can ever be "kind" to women.

    Since this is a major sore spot for most men, I thought I'd share the discussion.

    This was posted by Mr. X who is a professional soldier and a long time Speed Seduction® student.

    Mr. X had this to say:

    I can say from personal experience that women of Russian origin are
    similar to Asian women in that they view niceness and acts of
    kindness as indicators of strength, whereas American women view
    niceness and acts kindness as indicators of weakness.

    Here is MY answer:

    Uh uh uh...depends Depends. Depends.

    If it reeks of need or pressure, they don't want it.

    If it's freely given or given from a place of abundance AND you
    have established authority and respect, it's usually a-ok.

    Most unappreciated "kindness" is unappreciated because:

    1. You didn't establish respect/authority or get any investment
    from her in the interaction/transaction BEFORE the kindness.

    2. She's a twist and just doesn't trust any kindness. Ok. They are out there. Best to run away or play the villain only a VERY short
    while. But aware, please: if you stare into the abyss to get your cues and clues on how to respond and behave, the abyss also stares long and hard into you. And what it gazes at it molds and shapes. So don't look long.

    3. It wasn't really kindness but need or pressure.

    4. She's a super-twist and not only doesn't trust kindness, she
    WANTS to be punished. Run, RUN, R-U-N away.

    5. She doesn't like the psychological pressure of having to live up to the ideal you think of her as; putting her on a pedestal gives her cramps, a nose bleed and a nasty migraine, so she kicks you in the face as she steps off to be human.

    6. You are giving her the kindness you THINK she wants or that you enjoy giving and not what the kindness she really needs. If she craves physical affection and you buy her gifts it isn't her fault that you aren't paying attention.

    Given the right context and a reasonably ok psyche (and it isn't that rare) most women will soak up appropriate, NON NEEDY, NON PUSHY kindness. Some are twists. Some just crave excitement and drama and dominance more than the cuddlies, wuddlies and warm fuzzies. The most confusing ones crave one over the other depending on their mood of the day or time of the month.

    Bottom line:

    1. Screen your woman

    2. Establish boundaries, self-respect/authority in her world.

    3. Those who require punishment or who never trust kindness need to be left behind. After some experiences (some painful ones probably)you will develop the intuition to quickly tell who's who in this
    regard

    4. Get a good initial read, if you can, on whether they more
    strongly prefer excitement, drama and being dominated to being cared for and looked after, or in what proportion they want each. I prefer a woman who is a good mix of both; if she doesn't like excitement she's probably a lousy fukkk. If she can't take kindness, then I can't open my heart to her and the sex becomes nothing more than an energy dump; fun, but numbing and draining.

    Hint: Learn to read the chakra at the hara or t'an t'ien. which
    relates to power and will issues and you will get an idea of where they are at. And EXPECT the unexpected because with women, it IS going to happen.

    Peace and piece,

    RJ
However, I do share Mr. X's insights into asian and russian girls. My classic technique to women is to be kind and nice to them, and it works. It works up to the 8's or even 9's. However, there is a disproportionate number of asian/russian girls who are not the extraverts type and I contribute my success to that. I was never able to get those hot ones who is outgoing. They care nothing of kindness. Also, I know many asian girls really don't care about you, they just want some nice/cool guys - it is good that you can be nice and can sure, you can pick them up, but it is also bad because you can be replaced easily. Also, beware of the relationship matter, they suck you in, turn you into an AFC and then move on to another AFC.

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